Anyone who thinks that after falling in love they don’t have to prove themselves anymore is living in a fairy tale.When he prioritizes need for attention over your need for support – If you lose your job and parents in the same week, and all he can do is ask why you’re not paying him as many compliments as you were last month, congratulations!This is article #36 to be published on the Get The Guy blog from my brother Stephen.Steve helped co-write the Get The Guy book and is a wealth of knowledge on dating and relationships.Thinking that ‘being in love’ means you don’t have to impress each other – Being in love means being comfortable, but that doesn’t get you off the hook.If you’re not trying to impress each other still, the relationship will stagnate quickly.
So go ahead: have the fight or the ‘big, long conversation’. You’ll feel a hundred pounds lighter and can at least make him aware of your grievances, instead of suffering in silence.
Generally speaking, the more you share in a relationship, the more you’re able to solve.
Someone who never brings up problems will be a struggle to deal with ten years from now when they never tell you what’s going on in their heads.
Being unable to tell the difference between having a disagreement and having a fight – If the two of you can’t disagree without it slipping into name-calling, emotional tantrums, and being moody for 24 hours afterwards, you’ve got a long miserable road ahead.
If you argue a lot, start making a note of which one of you let’s disagreements get out of hand.