A lot of people, including me, turned to online dating, and Ok Cupid was all the rage.As I was serious about finding someone, I uploaded a lot of pictures of myself, had a very thorough profile, and received a lot of attention. Eventually, it got to be too much and I closed my profile.I haven’t used dating sites to try to find men to date ever since.First off, telling a woman about what you would like to do to her sexually without any prompting is not a compliment.If you see a picture of a woman you like, take the time to read her profile. When messaging a woman without bothering to learn about her through her profile, it may come across as you not caring about her as a person – no one wants that. If you’re interested in something casual, tell her or put it in your profile.
However, Ok Cupid has many not-so-great users as well, and it’s not uncommon for women to have the misfortune of encountering them, and in the past, I have as well.
One friend brought up a message where a man had told her that because she was a ‘woman of size’, she ‘must suck good ****’. Others in the past have conducted similar experiments, setting up fake accounts on free dating websites and recording the messages they received.
Cracked’s Alli Reed set up ‘the worst online dating profile ever’ and still received heaps of messages from men who wanted only to hook up with the terrible woman she had created.
It’s creepy, and in some instances really scary – not a turn-on by any means.
Neither is asking for, or offering to send, nudes (unless they were not discussed first). Insulting other women, while looking for a woman, won’t help your chances of finding someone. Don’t be this guy and send this as your first message to a woman.