Online dating is fine to meet someone as long as you meet them in person shortly after to avoid possible complications.
So use online dating like you would getting set-up by a friend on a date, but go on the date in person. At the core of dating is a journey to find your possible spouse.
Just like Adam in the garden, you need to have a strong relationship with God first before bringing another person into the mix.
Who you are in Christ before you marry will be who are to your spouse when you are married.
Recovery without healthy relationships only perpetuates the sinful self-obsession that led to addiction in the first place.
In recovery we must learn to shift our focus, thus becoming free to share intimacy with others.
When we unlock others from a past they cannot correct, we free them to become all they can become, and we free our relationships to become all they can becomes as well. There is a need to build up a wall of defensiveness. There is no way to build a lasting, healthy relationship on a foundation of dishonesty.There are no garbage bags in healthy relationships. Often people come from such insecure childhoods they can only hope that their adult life will include a relationship that allows them to rest in the arms of someone who really cares. When we shift from trying to use others to satisfy our security needs to trying to meet the security needs of others, we find ourselves in a new dimension. We are filling their doubts and fears with the reassurance of our consistent behavior. We become, in a word, loving: other-focused and totally selfless. It is wonderful to be vulnerable, to do an emotional free fall and have someone there to catch you.Out of love, the partners take the hurt and disappointment of the past and burn it up in the flames of forgiveness. So much of life is lived on the edge of risk, we feel an overwhelming need for at least one relationship to make us feel safe. That is the kind of love that drives out fear and provides genuine security. That delightful taste of vulnerability enables you to open up even more, discover more about who you are, appreciate all the good that God has created in you.We deceive those we love, rationalizing that keeping secrets is really for their good.Virtually all addictions are maintained under the cover of some sort of deception, which eventually is woven into a vast tapestry of lies and cover-ups. One of the main functions of a recovery support group is the accountability it provides, holding the recovering addict to rigorous truthfulness.