Though I’m no stranger to military men (my grandfather, father and brother were all enlisted), this is the first time I have dated a soldier. I’ve seen a lot of websites that list ten things an Army girlfriend should remember and do, and some of them made great points. And your honey could be shipped out at any time, for months or years. Many of these are difficult and sometimes disturbing. If he wants to talk about his life in the Army, be it the crazy times with the guys in his unit, the tedium of the everyday, or even the tougher times, let him be the one to broach the subject.
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
Your girls may not get why you don’t want to go out because you’re waiting on an overseas phone call. They live their lives by the ideals of responsibility and faithfulness. You may not think it now, but while you’re dating an Army man, weird things can get to you. I want to eventually marry my soldier and he is my world.
TIME: So many of your books have a medical element, and this one does, too. Sparks: In the end I think it reflects reality, right?
Even in the course of my own life, I was 23 years old and my mom was in a [fatal] horseback riding accident, and those last few hours were spent in the hospital. When Cathy and I were married, she had a miscarriage.
And if you remove one of those things, you write about a character who never gets angry, or there’s no humor, or there’s no sadness, it feels a little fairy tale-ish. We’re early enough in the process that I’m still working with ABC and the writers to figure out exactly what kind of comedy are we going for. In the end I think that you’ve just got be yourself.
And there’s room for those kinds of stories in the market, but it’s not what I do. My daughters—not my sons—have read everything, and my sons have seen the movies, but they haven’t read anything. For writing process, let’s say What about your favorite book by another author? Is it more I know part of it is the character learning how to date again.