” The answer is always, "Of course not."In other words, if he were a millionaire, magazine-cover-worthy, pro football player, then, yeah, she would totally date him, and the Christian thing wouldn’t really be that big of a deal.It seems to me that women who write off Christian guys as squares are making an illogical jump from “I’ve never met a Christian I’d want to date” to “I’d never date a Christian man.” Could you say the same about all Italian men if you dated a few Italian guys who bored you?In my experience, the sex issue is by far the most difficult hurdle for non-Christian women when they consider whether they’d date a Christian. He owned the space and requested a “no women overnight” rule. What I didn’t expect, however, was how that little rule would result in more than one woman deciding she didn't want to see me anymore.To be sure, if your experience of dating has always included sexual intimacy, then the idea of dating someone without sex might seem like a rather abrupt undertaking.While it's certainly possible that your marital bed could be bad, I’m not sure it’s any more likely than the possibility of eventually getting bored by your spouse or find that you are no longer fulfilled like you used to be. And, frankly, there’s something about delaying sexual intimacy that means you have to invest in other parts of the relationship. I'm all in favor of giving somebody a chance, regardless of faith or background, to win you over on their own terms.Moreover, there’s evidence to suggest that waiting until marriage actually increases sexual fulfillment in marriage, and that fewer sexual partners before marriage leads to happier marriages, particularly for women. Go into things with an open mind and take it one step (i.e., one date) at a time.
There are plenty of rotten human beings who call themselves Christians and plenty more who don’t. I don’t know if I’ve ever heard a woman come right out and make judgments about the attractiveness of guys serious about their Christian faith, but it’s certainly been implied.
All they really seem to mean is, “I’d never date any of the Christian men I’ve already met.” Which, of course, should have little to no bearing on future guys they meet.
It’s no secret that Christianity preaches that sex should be reserved for marriage alone, and that most of the rest of the population begs to differ.
Are you freaked out by the idea of dating an SCD—you know, a Super-Christian Dude? But still, I find myself wary of guys (and gals) who are, you know, Christian. I have been rejected on more than one occasion by a woman who considered me to be “too Christian” for her taste, and while I won't pretend to be able to speak for these women, I do wonder how much their decisions were informed by my reality as opposed to their preconceived notions.
Have you avoided men with online profiles touting their “love of the Lord”? I’m convinced that both men and women tend to approach relationships with a set of assumptions about potential partners, and I think religion is one trait that is too often judged based upon fiction rather than fact. Christianity is the largest religion in the world, claiming 2.2 billion of the world’s 6.9 billion people, as of last year.