He and his wife eventually divorced and he is now married to the secretary. I don't condone what he did but I can't deny that everyone said "it won't last, he's just in it for the sex, she's just in it for the money, etc", yet it has already lasted much longer than anyone thought. A real soul mate would not set you on the sidelines. How can you be sure whether you're the only "other woman" he has? She's been married to him for however many years, cleaned up after him when he's sick, raised children with him, sacrificed with him, dealt with the "damn dailies," then you come in at the 11th hour and provide a contrast to that that's new, and exciting and fun. It is no different than breaking into their house and stealing their things.Entertain the possibility that he is lying to you, and you are being used. Even if your married man decided to leave his wife and family for you, that doesn't guarantee success.Anyway, I always feel pity for the wives, and no sympathy for the mistress. The mistress knows exactly what she's getting herself into. Maybe she feels good doing this, she thinks that she's superior to the wife. Remember don't do to others you don't want to be done to you.
Oh this gets me nuts...the end the answer is the wife because she gets the house, children, money & eventually humilates the man back, but she is completely broken, and that is heart wrenching. She-Devil..a Roseanne person, but sweet revenge was hers! If you’re putting your life on hold for a married man, he’s not only stolen your heart — he’s stolen your brain!Even if he is separated from his wife, that is their business, and you are a threat to their marriage. You may feel that he’s your soul mate but think again. You already know that he's a liar, because he's living a lie with his wife and children. It is no different than being a thief in the night.My point was that if you ask me, it is the Woman who start the affairs, and men just follow blindly along.I wonder what the percentage is of who starts the affair? At the end we are the one that ends up hurting and losing the most. The important things in life are free, integrity, respect, morals, feelings, love, etc.